I have a 90 gal that has been running about 3 months. Two weeks ago I added my first finger leather. He stayed closed about 2 days then puffed up and was beautiful

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Five days ago I guess I made the mistake of feeding him because since then he has been closed and shrunken. Other than that he looks pretty healthy. He isn't drooping--just not extended. Nothing else before then changed. Water params and placement/lighting was the same.
I did my regular partial water change 2 days later. After 3 days of this I thought maybe I should try something, so I added more lighting--I am only running 274 watts which I know is lowish. I had another strip of lights that I had inteded adding but everyone seemed happy without it before...so I turned it on. It didn't make him any happier, and seemed to tick off every other coral in the tank. I turned it back off today (everyone is much happier). I tried adding more water flow in his general direction with an oscilating powerhead. Nothing.
My question is this...is this normal for finger leathers? Are they just tempermental? Is he just digesting, and am I just messing with a good thing?
This morning he seems just about ready to open. His skin has that blackhead look it gets just before his polyps extend, but so far nothing. If this is normal then I can relax. I have looked all over in my books and on the web, and have found a few snatches of info that seem to suggest it is, but no straight answers.
Thanks!
Water params: Ammonia=0 Nitrate=0 Nitrite=0 pH=8.3 Alk=2.5meq/L sg=1.023 temp=79 Ca=350ppm